Stay with soon to be Ex or go after recovered little "hottie"?

My wife won't let me back in and I have found a "nice" looking recovered alcoholic,she's an ex-tennis player with a "great body.She has kids and has transitioned her herself out of a full rehab recently. I showed up one nite drunk and she flipped out and said I needed help, prior to that "we" had plans.She has invited me over many times after but only after she made me "pay" be at least 7-10 days.I know she is concerned withmy recovery but shouldn't she be pulling me closer if she likes me?Also she just started a job and she NOW gets to see her kids.My wife won't let me talk to her or my kidand didn't press charges on me but I think she wants to "hurt" me in court for a few things I did ,even though I aways let her back she won't let me. I am going to AA but want "SOMETHING" THERE for me at nite forever and when ever....and ever amen.